Parenting as a Socially Anxious Mom

As a millennial mom, I’ve always been the quiet, introspective type. I cherish my alone time, relishing in the calm and solitude it brings. But life had other plans for me when I fell in love with my extroverted partner and welcomed our vivacious, ever-social 4-year-old son into the world. While I wouldn’t trade them for anything, our journey has come with its unique set of challenges. Here’s how I’ve learned to navigate the delicate balance between my introversion, social anxiety, and my family’s extroverted energy.

The foundation of any successful partnership lies in communication. For me, being open and honest with my partner about my need for quiet and alone time is essential. Sharing my feelings and anxieties has allowed us to work together to find compromises that meet both our needs.

To manage my social anxiety and recharge my introverted soul, I’ve established a schedule that includes regular “me time” blocks. These moments of solitude are crucial for maintaining my mental and emotional well-being. My partner understands the importance of these breaks and supports me in taking them.

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Finding activities that cater to both introverted and extroverted family members can be a challenge, but it’s worth the effort. My fiancé and are learning to discover balance by alternating between quieter activities like family game nights or movie evenings and more outgoing adventures like picnics in the park or playdates with friends.

Here are a few activities in and around New Orleans that can help strike a balance:

  • Any Park in NOLA: Audubon Park offers a serene escape from the bustling city.
  • Museum Exploration: New Orleans boasts several fascinating museums that provide a quiet and intellectually stimulating experience
  • Bookstore Visit: For book-loving introverts, a trip to a local bookstore like Octavia Books or Garden District Book Shop can be a delightful experience

Don’t hesitate to seek support outside your immediate family. Whether it’s through therapy, support groups, or confiding in trusted friends, sharing your experiences with others who understand can provide valuable insights and emotional relief.

Seeking support is not just a suggestion; it has been a crucial lifeline for me. Relying on outside support, whether through therapy, support groups, or confiding in trusted friends, can provide much-needed emotional relief. It’s an acknowledgment that you aren’t as weird and out of place as you feel.

In the end, parenting as an introvert with social anxiety alongside an extroverted partner and child is a challenge. It’s about understanding, compromise, and, most importantly, love. By communicating openly, scheduling “me time,” embracing family activities, seeking support, and celebrating our differences, we’ve found a way to thrive together as a loving and unique family unit. So, to all the introverted moms out there, remember that you are not alone in this journey, and you can find a harmonious balance that works for your family.

About the Author

Hey I’m Amanda, a millennial WFH mom from here in New Orleans, juggling life with a son. Like most moms, I’m always busy and juggling life with my toddler son. In my world, there’s never a dull moment. I’m a part-time content creator during the day which allows me to be a little social, and when I’m not on screen, I’m usually binge-watching funny TV stuff or just relaxing. There’s no point in being serious all the time, so I keep it funny and keep growing. I’m an introvert who loves exotic foods; I appreciate the beautiful energy of a good beach and a good Reiki session. Follow Amanda on Instagram HERE.


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