It’s Okay If You Don’t Have New Year’s Resolutions; Let’s Have Hopes Instead

We’ve got a new year fresh our hands right now. It feels like a chance to do something new, something out of our comfort zones. Or maybe it feels like a year for consistency and security after enduring hurdle after hurdle. Then again, it could feel like a deep breath you’ve got to hold until it feels safe to breathe it out, and who knows when that will be?

Whatever way 2023 has you feeling,

I hope you find a small moment of peace in each day, even if it’s just before you close your eyes for the night.

I hope you aim to better yourself in all the ways, in all the things, in all the moments. And then I hope you remember to be gentle with yourself when some of those things fall through the cracks.

I hope you find the courage to stand up for yourself, especially to those you love the most. I hope you remember you are just as important as anyone else in the room.

I hope you make time for you, even if it’s awkward at first and you don’t know what “time for you” means yet. I hope you push past the mom guilt and the anxiety and you find yourself again, however slow the progress may be.

I hope you recognize how valuable your time is, and choose to spend it with people who value you.

I hope you know none of us knows what we’re doing and we’re all trying our best, so that means you must be, too.

I hope you know if you’re worried about whether or not you’re a good mom, or if you made the right decision, or if your child is happy and feels loved, then you’re a good mom, you made the right decision, and yes, your baby is happy and loved.

I hope 2023 is full of inspiration, big dreams, and resolutions being knocked out left and right.

But I also hope you know if 2023 is your year for recovery, small changes, and learning how to breathe deeply again…that is worthy of celebration, too.

You don’t need lofty goals and a brand new journal to be ready to take on the new year (but if you do–I love it!). You don’t need to make new commitments or promises. All you need to do to begin anew is to show up.

And look! Here you are. Like I tell my babies before school each day: You are brave. You are beautiful. You are smart. You are strong. You are kind. You are important. You are loved.

2023 is going to be whatever it will be, and you’ll still be wonderful you.

Happy New Year!

Cailin Allain
Cailin was born in Metairie, but moved to Slidell at five years old and never left! She is now raising her three daughters, Genevieve (Evie, 5, highly intelligent, brutally honest, hysterical), Josephine (Jo, 4, intuitive, brilliant, fiery), and Bernadette (Bettye, 2, smarty pants, no sense of fear, doesn’t believe in rules), with her husband, Andy (her favorite human), in Olde Towne Slidell. Cailin received her bachelor’s degree in English with a concentration in Creative Writing and a minor in Political Science from LSU, and her J.D./D.C.L from the Paul M. Hebert Law Center at LSU Law. She has her own practice, Law Office of Cailin K. Allain, LLC, and is currently navigating the ins and outs of expanding her business while working from home. When she’s not working, raising babies, or dancing in the kitchen with her husband, you can find her curled up in bed with a good book/comfort movie, some chocolate, and hot tea. On the weekends, Cailin enjoys going to concerts and comedy shows with her husband and any one (or all!) of her six siblings, and hanging out with her in-laws in Bay St. Louis.


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