A Letter to My Son on Inattentive ADHD

Dear Son,

I know you hate homework. I did too.

I know you forget math formulas. I did too.

I know you rush through your work sometimes and make minor mistakes. I did too.

I know you would rather sing songs and imitate wrestlers.

I know your mind wanders out of the school window; so did mine.

My mind wandered so much, that I would dream about all of the fun and interesting things that I was going to do in the world.

I know tests take you longer. They took me longer too.

I want you to know that one day that imagination of yours is going to help you to do BIG things. Trust me. I used to say that I wouldn’t need math and I don’t need math. I just needed to get through it to get to the BIG things. So, when you’re hating on math or struggling through focusing in class, remember that what you’re doing now is going to GET you to the BIG things; the things that your beautiful mind thinks about.

You know how you want to talk about baseball or football during class? Or how you want to tell stories about what you’re going to do on your next playdate? You have to reign that in now, so that you can pay attention to other things that you have to learn. Once you get through school, you are going to do the most amazing things with that creative, imaginative, brain of yours. You might invent things, you might create businesses, you might write books or do sportscasting. The sky is the limit.

You have a creative brain. Your brain thinks a lot. So did mine. Sometimes that thinking got in the way while I was trying to do Grammar or Social Studies. My brain found those things really boring. My brain wanted to do the exciting and creative things. Now, that very part of my brain is what helps me to create businesses. That same part of my brain is what helps me to connect with people and develop relationships. That same part of my brain helps me to hyperfocus on projects and create amazing things.

Fast forward ten years and you are going to be amazed at all of the things that your brain can do. Just hang in there my sweet child.

Kelley Lockhart-Delaune
Kelley Lockhart Delaune was born and raised In Metairie, Lousiana. She is married to her husband and has two boys, Roman (10) and Remy (8). Kelley received her Bachelor's degree in Psychology from LSU and her Masters in Social Work from Tulane in 2002. Kelley is a psychotherapist in private practice. She owns Modern Therapy and Wellness, a group practice. Her and her team focus on helping others to heal themselves and their relationships. You can find her mental health and wellness blog at: https://moderntherapyandwellness.com/. In her spare time, you can find her working out, drinking coffee, going to the beach, cursing too much, staying up too late and writing.


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