A full-time job, two kids, dishes, dinner, laundry, homework, baths, cleaning, projects, and on, and on, and on.………..Has the panic attack started just from reading that? As a mom, I have stopped so many times and asked how in the world society expects women to accomplish so many tasks in a 24 hour period, still manage to have that oh so important “time to themselves,” AND not go insane. I mean really – one person cannot possibly expect to accomplish all of those things in one day!
Well, I’m here to share my “secret.”
It’s my husband! Although we are in 2014, we all have to admit that there are still gender roles within traditional families in today’s society. I always find it interesting to watch people’s faces when I talk about all the things my husband does in our house. I hear “can I live at your house” and “must be nice.” I have to admit that I am truly blessed to have the husband that I have. He has never bought into the idea that men do certain tasks and women do certain tasks within a marriage or household. I will forever be grateful for that.
You see, each night, my husband is the one who cooks. Each night, my husband is the one who does the dishes. Each morning, my husband is the one who makes lunches for the kids. In fact, each night my husband is even the one who moves the Elf on the Shelf. That’s not to say that I don’t have my own jobs in the house as well, but my list of jobs do not include every task to be accomplished in a day’s time. My jobs include paying the bills, doing homework with the kids, bathing the kids, washing the laundry, making doctor’s appointments, going on school field trips, getting the kids up, dressed and at school in the morning, and more.
My Challenge to You
So my challenge to the working moms out there is to throw out your typical gender roles and divide your family tasks with your husband. You may be thinking, “Yeah, right. Has she met my husband?” My response is have you asked him? Have you personally let go of the control so that your husband can help? Have you washed and put away enough dishes that you can now be ok if that bowl is not the exact right spot?
Give it a try! You might be surprised at how much your husband is willing to do if he believes that YOU believe he can do it!