Hunting Season: Wife of a Duck Hunter

My husband is an avid duck hunter. He loves the water, being outdoors, the preparation, and the sense of accomplishment after a hunt. He doesn’t mind getting up early, putting in all the work, and cleaning up afterward. I know he works hard at it, but he loves it.

Accepting life as a hunter’s wife wasn’t as easy in the beginning. It felt like another scheduling problem to deal with, the time my husband was away from the family, an activity that was a burden to me, as his wife.

I probably complained about it often and, admittedly, didn’t always make it easy on him. I was sometimes annoyed when he would leave or less than thrilled when he came home to begin the clean-up process. This caused tension, of course, and made his hobby a lot less enjoyable for him. After several discussions about his hunting and some soul-searching, I decided to change my perspective on the entire experience.

  • Soul-Serving: I thought a lot about what soul-serving activities I have in my life, the things that I cherish and want to continue to be able to do. I reminded myself that we all need time away from the family, from the house, from the day-to-day, and I want my husband to have that break too. I also work out a schedule to get special time to myself (before hunting season starts) so that I don’t feel resentful when we’re in the season.
  • Time Management: It’s a big thing for us, and we plan ahead as much as possible. I think we’ve both gotten better at communicating expectations so I know in advance when he’ll be away and how long it will be. Then I can plan accordingly by scheduling other things for myself and the kids, getting babysitters if needed, or just planning to have lazy weekends (which are also amazing!). I also try to mark the calendar way in advance of any must-do things my husband should be home for so that he knows to plan to be home.
  • Me-Time: I’ve found all the shows on Netflix that my husband doesn’t want to watch and I binge away! On the weekends my husband is away, and I spend my time reading or visiting family, or taking more naps. I also paint my nails and do art projects with my daughters that take time and make a mess and usually don’t happen on a normal weekend. I’ve found ways to invest in myself and my children so that we all feel valuable quality time even if we’re apart.
  • Finding Joy: In all things, you can strive to find joy. I have a much different perspective now about hunting season. I appreciate that my husband is spending time with his son and training him on safety and sportsmanship and boat operations. I appreciate that he has a hobby that is wholesome and high-activity and soul-serving for him. I appreciate the opening of time that hunting season allows me. I appreciate that we are different and can enjoy different things. And I honor the calendar to a fault so that expectations are clear and no one is disappointed.

A hunting wife’s life isn’t always the easiest. I don’t eat duck, and I don’t appreciate the outdoors as he does. But I do want to be supportive of the thing he loves. We have a joke about how much I dislike camo, but also … I’ve never seen a more handsome man dressed like a tree.

Rachel Harris Ledet
A New Orleans native and entrepreneur, Rachel is a mom of four with an active schedule. Rachel maintains a daily balance of running her own marketing firm, 30|90 Marketing, managing her kids’ schedules, and maintaining extracurriculars including coaching dance, volunteering, and occasionally teaching courses. Rachel lives in Mandeville with her best friend and husband Lenny, daughters Addison and Amelia, stepson Luke, and son Tucker. With a family of six and a million balls in the air, Rachel keeps things light by continuously learning, spending time with amazing friends, blogging, finding any route to a concert or outdoor festival, and planning her next getaway with her husband. A sense of humor can get you through almost anything, so she tends to surround herself with fabulous and very funny people.


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