Some days life throws you a curve ball.
Once upon a time, I was having one of “those” days. I was running around like crazy. My kids were on a mission to make me lose my mind. I was on my tenth attempt that year at actually sticking to Weight Watchers. When it came time for dinner, I decided to listen to my three year old’s cry for “TOAST BREAD!” Raising Cane’s for dinner it would be. Sure, I only had a handful of Weight Watchers points a left for the day, but Raising Cane’s is so easy and delicious, so (like countless times before) I figured I would make up for it the next day.
I ordered food for my family. When I drove to the check out window there was a very thin, very cute, young lady at the register. I was immediately ashamed to be seen ordering the fried food. I imagined she looked at me, frenzied and 60 lbs overweight, and thought, “Lady, you really should be ordering City Greens or steaming some fish for dinner.” Instead, she caught me completely off guard. She looked at me and as she handed me my change, she said, “Wow, you’re really pretty.” I thanked her for the compliment and, after I collected my food, I started to cry.
I cry just typing this. The girl at Raising Cane’s has no idea how that simple remark affected me that day (and today). It reminded me that I am my own worse critic. A lot of us are, especially after we become moms. Most of the time, I am so uncomfortable in my skin and embarrassed of the way I look in my uniform of baggy, black clothing that I only see the stuff I wish I could (better yet would) change. I completely overlook the good stuff. While my family tells me I’m pretty, to hear it from someone who I had assumed would judge me negatively for my appearance was touching. It was also disappointing. It was disappointing that I automatically assign negative opinions about myself to people. I am going to try to stop doing that.
I am also going to try to start giving unexpected compliments. You never know what kind of day someone is having, and a compliment from a stranger could impact them in a positive way. The girl at Raising Cane’s made me feel really happy on a stressful day. I want to do that for someone else. And I encourage you to do the same.