I Feel Sorry for Duchess Kate

Ok I know, I know. Someone or everyone is going to come at me with “she knew what she was getting into” or “she has tons of help and most of us have zero.” I get all of that, I really do. It’s true I have no nanny and I not only dress myself, I dress every single one of my kids in the clean clothes that I washed, folded and put away.

I’m not really one of these obsessed with the royals people. I did thoroughly enjoy The Crown on Netflix. I really only pay attention when there’s a major life event happening for them. I do somewhat feel a connection to Kate and William because we’ve hit a lot of the same milestones around the same times. The couple got married just a few weeks after my husband and I did. I gave birth to our third baby late last year and my first two children were born near the same times at Kate’s first two.

How many of us have put on pantyhose and heels hours after giving birth and stood in front of the world with a smile on our faces and waved?

I doubt anyone who is reading this has ever done that. I feel bad that Kate feels like she has to do this or that she actually has to do this. Every mother deserves some quiet rest after she gives birth. No mother should have to parade out like a show animal that quickly after expelling a human from her body. Every time I look at one of her leaving the hospital pictures, I think to myself “that poor woman is standing there in a dress while uncontrollably bleeding onto a pad that likely runs from her navel to the small of her back.”

In the days and hours after I gave birth, I felt gross, I was beyond exhausted, I couldn’t fathom any type of restrictive clothing, and everything hurt. I’m sure most moms felt that way, Kate included. So undoubtedly Kate had an entire glam squad getting her ready before the made her big debut with babe number 3, but that doesn’t change the fact that it’s her standing there with an hours old baby in her arms while in a dress and heels with a smile on her face and the world looking on.

Here is a picture of me hours after I had given birth to my third baby. I am in sweatpants, a tube top and cardigan so I can easily nurse the baby as needed. I’m sitting on a massive basically pee pad, if you’ve ever given birth you know why. I am so swollen looking and there is no way I could stand up to put on a dress and heels even if I wanted to because I’m still a good 12 hours away from fully regaining the full feeling in my legs.

Kate, you look stunning. But you shouldn’t have to. Go put on some sweatpants, take a nap and enjoy those newborn snuggles while you can.

Tara grew up all over south Louisiana and currently lives in Metairie with her husband Josh, and their 3 kids Dax, Dane and Delta. Tara is a buyer for a local food-service distribution company and Community Director for New Orleans Mom. During the week she can be found replying to emails, carpooling kids all around, giving out hugs and kisses, and looking forward to bedtime. Weekends are for family adventures, naps and cheering for LSU and the Saints. She loves trying new foods, travel, and she and her family love all things New Orleans, but especially Mardi Gras.


  1. Her name is Catherine, duchess of Cambridge. And likely the last thing she wants to do is to sit around the hospital with an army of crazy Royal Watchers and photographers outside. For her the only way she gets to sit and enjoy a newborn snuggles is when she does it in the privacy of her own home. Additionally being in the hospital creates extra work for the staff and security. So for an hour she gets up she puts on the clothes she gets the makeup she gets in the car she goes home she takes it off and gets to do whatever she wants in whatever way she wants to do it without any worries of hospital staff or passers-by leaking pictures or information (on purpose or accidentally.) Perhaps you don’t remember one of her previous deliveries. A nurse was lied to on the phone and gave information about the Royal Family and later killed herself.


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