Three Words Your Toddler Needs to Know
We’re in the thick of toddlerhood with our very independent (almost) three-year-old. All the clichés about three-nagers are unfolding around us daily. Our little guy has lots to say and a strong-willed personality that he inflicts on his older siblings and parents daily.
Being the youngest of four means you have to be scrappy and sometimes our toddler can be downright demanding, but we’re working on manners and patience over here. One thing I learned is with my other kids is just how frustrated little ones can get when something doesn’t go just right or when they cannot communicate exactly what they want or need. I find this especially true during the “I Do It Myself” stage when all they want to do is be independent.
Unfortunately for their bodies and brains, they can’t reach everything, fix everything, or communicate everything that they would like to. Toddlerhood means a ton of intellectual development, observation (and opinions), but not necessarily enough words to express them.
The Three Words You Need Your Toddler to Know
When I saw my son struggling with frustration and starting to throw tantrums, I started repeating his new mantra to him: “Mommy, help me.” He learned it pretty quickly and has started to employ it some. Not only does it help my son to slow down his tantrum, but it allows him to vocalize the words to trigger someone else to jump in. Sometimes I will even stand aside when I can tell he’s getting a little irritated with something (as he is “doing it himself”) just so that he can feel independent. Then he can realize on his own if he needs help and ask for it. Hopefully, this helps reduce the full blown frustration tantrums as much as possible! Allowing independence is so important at this age, and my toddlers truly want it. But it’s also perfectly fine to jump in and help to fix a toy, skip the YouTube ads, or open a snack.