School Dance Proposal Season, Will You Be My Date?
As fall approaches and many students are gearing up for Friday night lights, it can only mean one thing … Hoco is right around the corner! Back in the day going to school dances was easy.
If you were dating, it was understood that is who you went to the dance with. In today’s “pic or it didn’t happen” society, you need poster boards, glitter bombs, flowers, candy, and a ton of courage.
As the creative collaboration begins, mom and son gather all of the additional items for the theme, maybe flowers and a snack too. Prior to the big proposal, many parents are communicating on a date, time, and place in order to catch it all on camera / video.
What are we teaching our kids?
If mom secretly knows she will say yes, the plan continues. What if she says no? As a mom, we may convince them to choose someone else. Momma Bear has kicked in for protection. We have now eliminated an opportunity for a learning moment, the ability to feel and understand rejection.
What if your kid doesn’t receive a proposal and gets asked in a private? That’s perfectly acceptable. However, with the expectation we have now placed on kids, they feel some type of way because there was no proposal.
As a parent, what do you do if a random boy knocks on the door holding a poster board to ask your daughter to the dance … “who are you, does she even like you…?” Now you are crossing your fingers hoping she says yes because you feel for this boy and know this took courage.
As the school year progresses, we will do it again for prom.
At this point, is it about the kids or the crafty moms going head to head? Every mom outshining the other with her Pinterest skills. Guilty as charged, I am not there yet but yep that would be me.
Eventually, these kids will receive a real proposal when they get married. Let’s save the excitement and nervous energy for a big moment. At the end of the day, there is no right or wrong way. Go to the dance, be safe, and have fun!
