Please Stop Comparing Your Dog to My Baby

I love dogs. I’ve had a dog in my life for as long as I can remember. I even had a Go Go my Walking Pup back when I was younger and I would proudly walk my robotic dog around the block.

In college, I was that girl who drove around with her dog in the car and even had clothes for him. We would head to pet shops together and I would even get him puppuccino the weekly. I even held birthday parties for my dogs as a child and even as an adult … yes, I adore dogs.

However, please don’t compare a dog to having a child. It’s not the same.

I’m the proud mother of three children and have had numerous dogs and believe me, they are not the same.

I remember as a child going to pick out a dog. My sisters and I would play with each one and give them snuggles and kisses. We would then debate each other before coming to an agreement on THE puppy that we would choose.

Oh man, if having a baby was that simple!

Let’s just talk about trying to conceive, miscarriages, pregnancy and then labor and delivery OR the months / years of waiting to adopt to get that adorable baby. So yeah, getting a puppy is much different than birthing or adopting a newborn baby.

You can watch my eye roll when I see someone say they are so exhausted because their dog was up all night. Wait … what? Yes, dogs can wake up in the middle of the night needing to go outside. However, it is no way near comparable to waking up to an inconsolable hysterically crying newborn. And let’s not even talking about waking up to have to breastfeed your baby or pump.

I’m sure you know someone who has had to give a pet away because sadly the pet wasn’t working out with their family. Yeah, you can’t do that with your new bundle of joy. A pooch can be listed on Craiglist, not so much with a baby. Parenthood is forever … or at least the next 18 to 21 years.

And those cute babies turn into rambunctious toddlers!

And those puppies? They grow up as well, but they need much much less attention. I just can’t leave my toddler at home in a kennel as I go off to Target. I can basically ignore my dog compared to my toddler. I can put my dog out every few hours, have his food and water out and well, that’s mostly it. Now my toddler? I can’t take my eyes off of him when he is awake. He is climbing, running and putting everything and anything in his mouth. The only break I get is when he is sleeping.

Let’s also talk about once those toddlers become young children. My dog can’t yell at me and talk back and challenge every little thing I say. However, my child can. Sure, Fido can bark and yap, but my child can scream so loud a neighbor could call CPS.

Another huge difference between your pooch and my child is vacationing. One can just call up a local kennel, board your favorite furry friend and head out of town. Oh man, if it was that easy for a child. Whether you leave your child with a family member or hired help while you vacation or bring them along with you on said vacation, neither option is easy or cheap. It simply can’t compare to showing up to a kennel with a bag of dog food in hand and medication.

Now don’t get me wrong. I am so happy to have had dogs in every aspect of my life.  They are truly a special part of our family.

But please, don’t compare your dog to a baby. It doesn’t even come close.


A Mother of 3 and dog owner to multiple dogs

Mary is a caffeine addicted boy mom to Noah, Liam and Luke. This “stay at home” mom can typically been found cruising in her minivan, jamming to Beyonce with a Starbucks in hand on her way to carpool or after school activities. Mary has been married to her high school sweetheart since 2007. She is a founder of Delivering Hope NOLA and the Vanessa Wolff Scholarship Fund at her Alma Mater. Mary is passionate in the local preemie community and has been heavily involved with the March of Dimes since her sons Liam and Luke were born premature.


  1. First off, I cannot stand bitches like you who get super sensitive when it comes to this topic. No, a dog and a human aren’t the same. However they sure do have lots of similarities. When you have a newborn puppy, and you still have to watch over him to make sure he eats, That my friend is exhausting. When he is still a baby and is getting used to your home so cries for nights, that my friend is exhausting. Maybe you don’t wipe your dogs ass, but I sure as fuck do. I have a yorkie, he has hair, so I am most definitely going to make sure nothing is stuck there. I also wipe his paws before him getting on my bed. I buy him toys, as you would your child. I have a schedule, as you would for your child. He has vet appointments, like your child has doctors. You take those kids out to play at a park, I take mine to a dog park. see the similarities? I can go on and on. Some people who you find annoying when it comes to this topic might be dealing with infertility, ever thought of that? Those people will die for their dog, as you would for your kids. I think you’re ignorant af for attacking people who love just like you do. Now stfu and just take care of yours.

    • LOVE THIS. I’m pregnant with my first child but every time I look at my BABY corgi girl I can’t imagine I can’t love something else even more. Sure I’ll probably love my baby boy even more in the future, but for now, I LOVE my corgi and she’s my life. And I don’t think having a human child will change the way I love my dog.

    • First of all, thank you for writing this article. I can’t stress this enough. People should stop comparing anything with a baby. I can’t stand it. U can call your pet as your child. Just stop there . But don’t compare that with my baby. I lost my patience today when I heard someone comparing their pet to my baby. You do whatever you want with your pet, that’s your business.” I do not care”. But please stop the nonsense of trying to compare “it”with my baby.

  2. First of all. I am not mother material. I can handle children for a small amount of time and then I need space away from them. I’ve never had that issue with a dog. I don’t want to be a mother to a human child. I never have nor will I ever. So the only child I will ever have is my fur-baby. If you don’t like the fact that I call my puppy my child, then that’s entirely on you. Live and let live.

  3. The only comments I see here are not from senstive moms, but sensitive dog owners. As both a dog owner that has raised several puppies and a mom of a toddler – they are not comparable. Babies are MUCH harder. No contest. And until you’ve experienced both, I don’t think you really know the difference. I have no problem with people calling dogs their children, just when people say they feel like it would be the same as taking care of a child. It’s not.


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