I Hate the Word Just

I hate the word just.

I don’t mean the adjective for fairness, of course.

I mean the adverb as in, oh, just do this.

Often, it’s dismissive. It lacks empathy. It lacks awareness. 

Just get a babysitter.

You just need some time away.

Just ask your parents for help.

Just let your husband watch them so you can go out.

Just make time.

Often, these statements come from a well-intentioned place.

Just hire someone if you don’t have the time. feature just

Just get a new one.

Just stop breastfeeding.

Just put them in a stroller.

Just bring someone else with you.

Just get a new job.

Just work harder.

Just cut back.

Just don’t go.

Just stay home with them.

Just move.

Any of this sound familiar?

I’m absolutely guilty of it myself, and I’m trying to be more aware of when and how that word leaves my mouth. I know how much it stings when I’m at the end of my rope and one of those statements gets thrown my way.

So before you just….use the word just….Think about what you’re saying and what the person you’re saying it to might need. To quote someone wise, people’s truths are THEIR truths. Your truths may be different, opposite even. Consider that someone may need to vent. Perhaps they’ve exhausted all other options. Instead of tossing out advice, lend an ear, or a hand, or extend a hug.

It just might be the exact thing they’ve needed all along.

Lindsay is a native New Orleanian, displaced only by her years at Mississippi State, where she earned a B.S. in Wildlife and Fisheries and a minor in English. She came home shortly after Katrina, to work as a zookeeper and be a part of the rebuilding of her beloved city. She dragged her husband Drake, a Tennessee native, along with her. Their son Bennett joined the family in 2010, and in 2014 they welcomed identical twin girls, Genevieve and Kellen Clair. She now works full-time as an Environmental Scientist while working on her Master's and serving part-time as NOM’s resident Jill of All Trades. Powered by espresso, cake, and craft beer, her happy place is on a beach or in the woods. Need to identify a plant, tree, or animal? Lindsay’s a wealth of random knowledge. She loves to cook and sprinkle a little glitter on everything.



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