From Bar Hopping to Hallmark Watching :: My New Happy Place
There was a time when I was the life of the party. If there was an event, I was there – staying out late, laughing and rubbing all the elbows, and soaking up every moment. My calendar was always full, and my energy seemed limitless. Even after having kids, I kept that vibrant social life going. Girls’ nights, brunches, and weekend getaways were my jam. I loved the buzz, the connection, the sheer fun of being out and about.
But lately? Things have changed.
I’ve found myself turning down invitations to monthly happy hours. The idea of staying out late feels exhausting rather than exhilarating. And the truth is, I don’t want to drink socially as much. I’m not interested in the ritual of it anymore. What once felt essential now feels …unnecessary … a distraction. Instead of reaching for a cocktail, I’m reaching for cozy pajamas and a cup of tea. I’d rather spend an evening curled up on the couch watching Hallmark movies than dressing up for a night out.
For a while, I questioned this shift. Am I losing my spark? Am I becoming boring? But I’ve realized it’s not about losing anything – it’s about gaining clarity. My priorities have shifted. My joy looks different now, and that’s okay.
I’ve become what I lovingly call a “Hallmark Movie Mom.” My ideal evening involves a feel-good storyline, predictable but heartwarming endings, and a deep sense of comfort. It’s not just about the movies; it’s about the simplicity they represent. Life doesn’t have to be a whirlwind to be fulfilling. I don’t need to be constantly on the go to feel alive.
This phase of life is teaching me the value of being present – for my family, for myself, and for the small, meaningful moments that make up a beautiful life. I’m learning to embrace slower days, deeper connections, and a kind of peace I didn’t know I was missing.
To anyone else feeling this transition, let me say this: it’s okay to change. It can be hard living in New Orleans, where there is always an opportunity to party or celebrate. This allows me to select a handful of holiday brunches, not every brunch and every holiday happy hour. This could mean being left off the invite list eventually. And that too, is okay. It’s okay to outgrow habits, routines, friends … and even old versions of yourself. It doesn’t mean you’ve lost who you are. It means you’re growing into who you’re meant to be right now.
So here’s to embracing the evolution, one Hallmark movie at a time.
