I really am trying hard to be open-minded with the new way of the world, but there is one thing I cannot understand. Why are people trying to look like a completely different version of themselves? I understand a little maintenance Botox here and there or even a little bit of a lip flip, but the amount of filler, Botox, veneers, and fake everything I am seeing on social media and in person makes me think I must have grown up in the wrong generation.
Let me clarify: I am not saying anything bad about changing your image or enhancing your looks. So please do not be offended. We are all obsessed with our looks and I totally admit that. And I really do not think anyone changes their looks to look worse. The goal is to look better, isn’t it? But in some cases, that does not happen. The person who changes their look may think they look better, but in all actuality, they either look drastically different and are not the people we once knew, they look like they are older trying to look younger or they look shocked, surprised, freaked out 100% of the time, 24/7. I get that it can improve confidence, and help our self-worth, but when is enough, enough? When do they realize it is too much? When do they look in the mirror and not recognize themselves?
The title of this post is filling a void for a reason. What are they trying to do by changing their appearance? What are they missing? Are they in a happy marriage? Does their spouse make them feel less than others? Do they not like what they see in the mirror? We were all made different for a reason, and now I have trouble deciphering who is who on social media and it truly makes me sad. I hope these folks dig deeper and realize what our mommas used to say … it is what is on the inside that counts.
Another aspect of this that makes me sad, is what kind of healthy self-image skills are you showing your children? We all want our children to be happy with who they are, and to be comfortable in their own skin. As everyone already knows, kids are sponges. Monkey see, monkey do. Teach them positive affirmations by starting with yourself.
The scary truth is that it doesn’t add anything to your life. It is a bandaid, a temporary lasting attempt to fill the void. What a person may not realize is that they are deepening that void, because they are moving away from simplicity. There are not many things we need in life: food, water, clothing, shelter, family, and love. Focusing on that and what is really important, in my mind, could make the world a better place!
Ask yourself: “Am I missing something in life?”
My advice: Spend the money on experiences with the family. What you fill those moments with in life is what truly matters, not what fills your face.
I will leave you with 2 quotes:
“One of the advantages of being born in an affluent society is that if one has any intelligence at all, one will realize that having more and more won’t solve the problem, and happiness does not lie in possessions, or even relationships: The answer lies within ourselves. If we can’t find peace and happiness there, it’s not going to come from the outside.” — Tenzin Palmo
“It is only shallow people who judge by appearance. The true mystery of the world is the visible, not the invisible” – Oscar Wilde
