To be perfectly honest, the thought of turning 30 was daunting to me. It was a scary milestone for me and for a lot my friends too. Personally, I felt like I had to assess my life and make sure I was “where I was suppose to be” at 30. I even set a personal goal to be at my college weight for the big birthday (yes, totally lame). The thought of aging really sank in. Suddenly I started researching serums and potions. Snail serum eye patches anyone??? Hey, its only weird if it doesn’t work. However, now that I am 2 years in, I am realizing that the 30s ROCK, and so far, I am enjoying this decade way more than the 20s.
I am settled at this point in life. My husband and I have been married for awhile. The marriage is good. We have our flow and things are working well. The kids are getting easier, and we are finally out of the trenches. Our family is complete. Side note: one of my goals when I was younger and more naïve was to have 2 kids 2-3 years apart before I turned the big 3-0, so I guess kudos to myself for accomplishing that. We live in our forever home. Granted we still have renovations to do, but we’re here to stay. The dust has settled in many areas and that is comforting.
At this stage in my life, I feel more secure. I have more confidence in myself. It is easier to be kind to myself and not add so much unnecessary pressure. I am a hot mess sometimes, but I am okay with that. It is okay to not do it all. Balls will drop and the world will not end. I also feel more decisive these days. Not as much overthinking and analyzing. I can be more confident in making decisions. The 20s was a big building decade. I was building up myself, a career, my relationship, our home, and a family. It is hard to not compare yourself to others and what they are doing. Now, I feel a lot less competitive with my peers. I did a lot of work in my 20s in those areas, and now I can enjoy them. It is a good feeling to be relaxed and not feel like I have to keep up with the Joneses, Gonzalez’, or Houstons.
Priorities are clearer. I know what matters the most and that is what I invest in. Certain things are non-negotiable. It is empowering to be able to say NO. While I may not be perfect at being intentional all the time, I am working on it. I am being intentional about being intentional. Quality over quantity rings true for all areas now: fashion, friends, family, etc.
So all of you ladies in your late 20s, don’t fret because the future is bright. Just make sure you’ve already starting wearing eye cream.