For nearly every gift-giving holiday and birthday, Scott asks me the classic question: “What do you want for (insert occasion here)?”
Almost every time I answer the same. “Whatever. Be Creative.” Which, honestly, is stupid on my part because, as women, we all know that 99.9% of the time, our husbands need a road map that is specific on our gift preferences.
Well, you know what, my tune is changing. Mother’s Day is around the corner, and for once, I can tell you EXACTLY what I want, and undoubtedly what many other mothers would like on this holiday. I took a survey on Facebook of my mom friends, and there was an overwhelming response. We all wanted pretty much the same thing: time to ourselves.
So with that being said, I write this letter:
You asked me what I want for Mother’s Day. This year I have a definitive answer.
I am letting go of being all modest, and I’m going to be honest. First of all, I’d like an expression of gratitude for my hard work. I know, sometimes I can be a total nag, and I come across really grumpy and tired all of the time, but that’s only because I’m trying to juggle three jobs simultaneously while still trying to remain true to myself. You are probably thinking, what? Three jobs? I only know of one! Nope, dear, I have three. Wife, Mother, and then, there is my money-making job. I don’t usually ask for much when it comes to holidays and sometimes I try to leave it to you to figure it out for yourself.
But this time, I’m not going to do that. I’m laying it all out for you.
Instead of wasting your money on another piece of jewelry I will probably never wear (yes, Kay Jewelers, I’m talking about you and your heart pendants!) or a box of chocolates that I will devour in one sitting (and gain 5 pounds in the process), or even a bouquet of beautiful flowers that I will enjoy for a few days, but then will die, I can tell you the one thing I would LOVE for Mother’s Day. You don’t even have to give it to me on the actual day (although, that would be ok, too).
You are probably like, ok, Andie, will you get on with it for crying out loud? Just tell me what the hell you want.
Well, ok, then.
I WANT TIME TO MYSELF. I want peace and quiet. Time to do what I want without being told to “hurry up” because someone is getting tired and cranky (and I’m not just talking about the toddler here).
For starters, I want to sleep in. I want to be able to sleep past 7:00 and not have anyone poking at me, talking to me, or huffing in my face when I wake up. Breakfast in bed would be a nice touch, but not necessary. I would also like to take my morning shower with no one knocking on the glass door or licking my feet the minute I get out. (I am talking about the dog here.)
I’m thinking I may go to the salon and get a manicure and pedicure, just to feel pretty. Perhaps, I’ll head on over to the mall (ok, let’s be honest here, I’ll probably just go to Target), and I’ll wander around aimlessly for three hours looking at every clearance end cap and buy a bunch of stuff I certainly don’t need, but I love. But the best part is, I won’t be rushed through because my lunch hour is ending, you and the little guy are getting antsy, or I have to get home to start dinner. By this time, I’ll probably be hungry, so I’m thinking, hey, let’s meet up with a fellow mom friend for a pho lunch and some good conversation. (Of course, I’ll bring take out home for you!)
From there, I think I’ll want to go home and take a nap in my freshly cleaned house. (Or at least TRY to take a nap.) Could you be a doll and take Andrew and Maggie to the park for an hour or two so I can at least lay down in quiet? That would be AWESOME. Once I wake up, hey, lets take the kids for a walk on the levee for a little family time and a beautiful sunset. A great finish would be to go grab a quiet sushi dinner date (let’s get a sitter!) so we could get home in time to do story time and tuck in Andrew. Wouldn’t that be perfect?
The key here is yes, I can always do these things. But not usually all in one day. Usually they are broken up into small increments. And while that’s okay, a FULL DAY to do stuff on my own can make a world of difference to me.
Now, I’m not saying you have to do ALL of this, but certainly any of it would be greatly appreciated. Oh, and the best part, it doesn’t cost you ANYTHING, except your time.
(But if you want to give me flowers, you know, gerbera daisies are my favorite.)
This was an awesome post. Your ideal day sounds exactly like mine!
I have gotten an overwhelming response from so many moms that I nailed what a lot of them wanted. 🙂