Have you ever read one of those e-cards that talks about real moms having sticky floors or that mom gets it all done with her superhero cape that is secretly hidden in her closet?
Yeah, well I think we laugh because we all know that in some way it is true. But, what about those days when you aren’t so super?
You know what I mean. The day when you start off late to work because you forgot to set the alarm, but you over slept because your toddler had a nightmare and was up all night. You make it out the house and to your desk at work when it hits you that you left your coffee and breakfast on the kitchen counter. You fumble through the day to pick up a kid from daycare who is cranky from the lack of sleep, to get home to realize that you forgot to take dinner out of the freezer, the pet threw up on the kitchen floor and your hubby just called that he is going to be working late.
I will admit that I have those days. It is days when the work/life balance is a little off. It is also the day that the balance between trying to remember everything and holding it all together gets thrown out the window. Sometimes I have to be super. I have to be the mom that can get it all done. It is a lot of pressure, but it is pressure that I put on myself.
Last night, as I opened the dishwasher to realize that I put soap in it two days ago and forgot to hit start, was the end of it for me. I walked away from the day, knowing that I can start fresh tomorrow. I wasn’t feeling very super; actually I was closer to a mommy meltdown.
I am not a bad parent because I had a long day. Sometimes it is okay not to be super. Let’s be realistic: my two-year-old has no idea if I did the dishes or the laundry. She just cares that when it is time to read a bedtime story that I am there and ready to cuddle.
Moms have so much on their plate, and it is hard to keep up. I am a working mom so between my day job and my real job as a wife and mother, not everything can always get done. I don’t need to feel bad about it.
My daughter is going to be three in September, and I realized much too late that it is okay. We are all there from time to time. You can leave your normally functional household in disarray and call it a day.
Yes, I went to bed last night with dishes in the sink. No, I didn’t feel bad about it because it does not happen frequently. But, when I woke up this morning I did the dishes because I was fresh and ready to jump back in. It was a new day, and I was ready to put my super cape back on and get it done.
If you aren’t feeling so super or feeling a mommy meltdown come on, be kind to yourself and forgive yourself for not getting it all done. You are not a bad mom. Let your little one skip bath time that night, leave the dishes in the sink, and throw the towel in for the day. You will feel better and be glad that you did. Grab a glass of wine, soak in a bubble bath or go to bed early. Don’t sweat the small things, there is always tomorrow.
Remember, sometimes even superheros have bad days.