You’re at the grocery store with your tantrum-throwing toddler in the buggy and your baby strapped tightly to your chest in their baby carrier. Quickly (HA) trying to get in, get your necessities, and get out. Someone stops you and says “Don’t worry honey, it’ll get easier.”
Does it really though?
I’m sure there are MANY different opinions on this, but my personal one is that no, it doesn’t get easier.
I think motherhood and parenting are full of ebbs and flows and ups and downs, but I think that saying “it gets easier” isn’t necessarily true. I’m not saying that it’s a bad thing, but telling moms in the midst of a demanding, trying, or hard time of parenting that it’ll get easier might be giving false expectations.
Sure, certain things are easier now that our boys are older. Our youngest finally started sleeping through the night at age 2 – HUGE win! But now our 4-year-old is waking up in the middle of the night more than he ever has since he started sleeping through the night. Our oldest is at such a fun age, but our youngest is throwing tantrums left and right like no one’s business. Our youngest is talking so well and the stuff that he says while learning to form sentences and words is hilarious, while our oldest knows LOTS of words and often says them with a BIG attitude.
My husband and I watched a video the other night of when we brought our second baby home. I remember how hard those first few months were, but they were also wonderful. If you know me, you know the newborn phase is one of my absolute favorites. It was so hard though. Now that we have a toddler and a preschooler, life is still hard and still wonderful, just in different ways.
There will always going to be hard times, amazing times, and everything in between.
I think that once I realized it never actually gets easier, it somehow gets easier! At least mentally, it gets easier. You stop waiting and preparing for it to just magically happen, and you take things for what they are. You enjoy the good times and persevere through the tough times.
Even though it never magically gets easier, it’s always ALWAYS worth it. If you’re going through an especially trying time of motherhood, know that the hard times don’t last forever and the goodwill outweighs the bad! And that we’re all in this together. *High School Musical knew what it was talking about*